As a parent, one of the hardest things to hear is your kids saying that they can’t do something, when you know full well that they can. I see it daily. My daughter thinks she can’t remember all of her sight words. My son says he can’t get a better grade in one of his classes. The younger kids at school say they can’t sound out words, or cut along the lines. As an adult, I know the reality is that they will learn the skills sooner or later, but getting them to realize that is a different story.
When I hear kids getting discouraged and saying that they can’t do something, I tell them that they most certainly can do it. All they need is a little practice. It’s not the size of the goal that matters; it’s learning how to create a plan to achieve it. I have talked to them about the LK4. It’s a simple 4 step critical thinking skills model they can use every day to help them achieve their goals. Dream it! Believe it! Plan it! Do it! It works but you have to do the work. Put some effort into it. I wanted them to get some confidence and give them hope that they can do most things even if they don’t get it on the first try. I always try to lead by example, so now is as good a time as any. Here is how I plan to use the LK4.
With three kids and all of the activities that they are involved in, I have very little time for anything else. Every time a holiday comes up, I sit back passively and let another family member step up to the plate and host the celebration. I always insist that I don’t have the time to get all of the things done that are necessary to host an event myself, although when my teenagers were toddlers I used to do it all the time. Well this year things are going to be different. I stepped up to the plate and decided to host a Christmas Eve dinner for my family and friends. But I don’t want it to be just any dinner, I want it to be a fabulous dinner! I’ll use the LK4 to help me reach my goal.
Dream it: My goal is to create a wonderful Christmas Eve dinner, and check off everything on my list, including gifts and dinner. I want to have the house decorated and everything wrapped and under the tree by the time my guests arrive. I don’t want to run to the store at the last minute for something like ice, and I certainly don’t want to be nagging my kids to pick up their things at the last minute. Did I mention that I don’t want to send my husband out at the last minute to get gift cards for people that I invited and totally forgot about?
Believe it: I can totally do this. I’ve done it before. With a little planning, I can create a fabulous Christmas.
Now I’m going to sit down and plan it. I think this step will take the most time. I’ll let you know how it goes by next week. If anyone has any tips for me, feel free to share!