It’s that time of year again when we are prone to make New Year’s Resolutions, always with the best of intentions. If you are like me, you start off strong, and then after a few weeks, life happens. You are no longer going to the gym, eating the ideal diet, and you’ve managed to yell at your kids a few times.
This year, with the help of a small group I am in, I am forgoing the “Resolutions.” Maybe it’s just the word that throws us off. My friends and I are challenging each other to look at the balance of our lives including the following eight areas: Home/Physical Environment, Career/Work, Money & Finance, Health/Fitness, Friends/Social Relationships, Partner/Love Relationship, Personal Growth, and Fun & Recreation. Even all these areas can seem overwhelming.
We have given each other the liberty of changing the titles or not even using them at all. Our goal is not to get so burdened with making resolutions in each of the areas, but to focus on the areas that need some adjustment.
I feel like my work situation is going pretty well. I am a stay at home mom who is on call as a substitute teacher at my daughters’ school. It’s a perfect scenario for my family right now. My daughters come to work with me, and they leave with me. That’s an area I don’t have to put any focus.
For each of the other areas, I rate them according to my satisfaction with them. Those areas where I am least satisfied will be my focus this year. I will choose no more than three measurable goals for improving them. Health and fitness always seems at the top of my list.
In the past, I’ve set unrealistic goals for this area, and inevitably, I fail. My goals this year are simply drink at least 64 ounces of water a day and to exercise 5 days/week. My exercise can simply be to take the dogs for a 15 minute walk, some crunches, some pushups, and planks. I won’t beat myself up if I don’t do it. I will just start over the next day. To make it easier for me, I created a chart to track my water intake and my exercise. I love charts and checking things off so this works for me. Find what works for you.
If you are in the process of coming up with new goals or resolutions for this year, I would encourage you to get some accountability from a friend or two. Life is so much easier and better when you do it with friends. My small group has been invaluable in attaining my goals for 2013. I can’t imagine not doing life with them in 2014. I need them and they need me. Together, we can make 2014 and even better year.